3 Reasons We Don't Know How to Heal

World peace is no longer the thing to strive for as the overarching wishful thought on anyone's mind. Healing is the next contender for experiencing the truest sense of peace and possibly freedom. Healing was the most Googled term of 2021. Healing and spirituality have become synonymous with each other. While once taboo, spirituality is on the tip of the average millennial's tongue. And because of this, it is forcing different generations, such as Gen X and even Baby Boomers, to consider something they haven't done out loud before: seeking healing for their trauma. 

Even though many people consider healing, we need to discuss why so many fail at the healing process. If the global population has undertaken healing as a personal quest, then why aren't more people successful in a way that is felt deeply in our communities? It isn't for lack of qualified professionals to help identify the issues or an absence of some autonomy over what an individual is seeking to heal from at their introductory healing session. But, the fact is, if we were all healing at the rate we are talking about healing, the world would already feel like a very different place. It wouldn't be possible that we would still be having such a tug of war over fundamental human rights, laws that would ensure the safety of our children, and more ease in our daily interactions with people and concepts unfamiliar to us.   

Basically, we don't know how to heal.   

And, because so many people are afraid to admit their failure in healing, we all continue to be trapped in an endless cycle of trauma and pain within our families and communities. 

1. One of the main reasons the masses fail at healing is they are trapped in the how.

As a guide with clients, one of the questions I often get in intuitive sessions is, "how?" And that question is as much about the healing modality I use, the Akashic Records, as it is about one's desire to find a solution to their struggles. But it is also relevant to resistance to adopting a mindset of healing. The Akashic Records is a dimension of consciousness utilized best when seeking source-level information. Asking the "how" in any given circumstance helps to better direct you to the root cause of a pain, fear, or negative pattern in your life. However, the breakdown in healing in intuitive guidance is not accepting the soul-level truth as a personal truth. Because the world is trending toward a more spiritually conscious mindset, most are still not adept enough to hear their soul-level truth as cause and effect but more so in the ego mindset of blame, which activates other negative feelings. So faltering in healing here is understandable, as you cannot change your actions when you feel so guilty about the past that you become frozen by your own negative emotions and unable to be present and listen to the cause and effect of your actions and impact. 

Moreover, the "how" allows you to be fleeting with your chosen healing modality. Because modern spirituality has flung to the forefront of the mainstream mindset, it is easy to try more forms of alternative healing than ever before. And to be honest, many of those looking to heal do so out of fear of missing out (FOMO). The FOMO triggers the insecure and launches them into a never-ending " growth cycle" when all they truly want is belonging. And watching others on social media seemingly have success in so many different modalities is enticing to those that are aware of their traumas and looking for quick fixes to be a part of the mass movement in healing more than they genuinely care to connect deeply with themselves or find a universal connection in their lifetime. 

2. Another huge reason we don't know how to heal from our trauma and damaging patterns is: that many people are afraid they won't be able to maintain healthier actions that will create positive traits and habits of behavior.

This idea may feel blatantly counterproductive to someone who truly wants to rid themselves of misplaced pain and trauma, but when they change their behavior, there are valid aspects of life at stake. Some fear who they will become, what that will mean for the people in their lives, and the things that must go in the spirit of growth and healing. The sad truth is that most hang on too tightly to things that harm them because they fear greater harm and can't connect with a strong possibility for positive change through the lens of trauma. Because of the fears experienced when realizing the changes must be made to grow, many people are no longer intensely committed to creating the space to heal beneath the surface level because they become too distracted. Most distractions can start earnestly as those desiring to heal take stock of what they need to change and how they plan to do that until there is too much overwhelming to take it on at all. Overwhelming feelings make it hard to see or believe that small daily actions can change your entire life's trajectory. 

Finally, when many growth seekers understand the true nature of their circumstances, they want to change, but they don't want to work for it. Many roadblocks to hearing stem from a greater desire to be validated at the place one is currently in, as to stand in a familiar perspective rather than shift things from wherever many find themselves on the journey. But being right is often the place of the people that feel the most stuck in life, not the role of someone that is evolving. 

3. We're not healing faster because we won't allow support.

So many people are proclaiming they are healing through self-made practices, and what they need to realize is those practices lack the potency of sacred rituals that could be offered through guidance. Spirituality and healing, for that matter, are nothing if it doesn't point to surrendering to something higher than you, allowing the universal energy to move through you, and for that to happen, it must be activated through those that have inherited the ancient rituals. Proper practice is more beneficial than creating one with no real connection to the Source. The do-it-yourself aspect of healing is taking people further into their respective egos and not allowing them to find authentic pockets of self-discovery rooted in healthy thoughts, techniques for breaking negative patterns, and connection to support that could be beneficial for an authentic healing process. While taking an active role in your growth journey is essential, some people are making it up as they go along without a real direction other than to be "healed," That sometimes overlooks how their trauma symptoms don't allow objectivity. Not to mention, romanticizing not only the healing journey hasn't left room for traditional and non-traditional support to be a more straightforward process of treatment. Modern culture and, specifically, social media trends have pushed a softer, lighter experience for everything, including a romanticized healing and spiritual experience, even when treating trauma. While all healing practitioners should be professional and show empathy to those trying to overcome negative and painful circumstances, the desire to experience a healing process with a practitioner that mirrors more a paid friendship can overcomplicate the roles and boundaries between the practitioner and the party seeking to heal and grow. 

 For some people on the healing journey, allowing support is a bruise to their ego, which can create opposition with those they elicit for help. With every new thing they learn, instead of making them feel better about the expansion, they tend to feel a lack and tremendous regret for not knowing. Often it creates an opportunity to blame the aspects of their childhood that failed them or themselves for not being present through trauma to generate awareness for growth sooner. Healing for some is a priority, but only on their terms. This presents an issue for those who have solicited support through therapy,  life coach, or  even intuitive guidance. 

Trauma is more cumbersome to overcome than we think it is. Our trauma truly is our karma; it is the barrier presented to us to help us navigate this life in a way that offers us lessons for soul growth.   Overcoming painful circumstances and negative inherited patterns is not easy, but learning how to receive help is something that many must also learn to be successful in healing.

It’s important to approach healing in a way that leads to empowering  solutions.  Getting trapped in the how is not as important as what you discover as you learn to connect with yourself and your circumstances with greater perspective.   Remember that healing is not linear, and setbacks are to be expected as you unlearn negative behaviors and make space for positive actions that support the person you desire to become.  Allowing a source, or community of support will be helpful in uncovering the blind spots in your quest for clarity and growth. 

Are you ready to embark on a soulful journey to the ultimate truths, to harness light for the greater and universal good? Then schedule some time with me, and let’s see if we can travel this road together.