I think the thing most people don't realize about grief is that you go a little insane to be able to wrap your head around your loss. And not just the loss of someone else. Anyone you lose reminds you that your days are numbered. The insanity forces you into periods of obsession that start so subtly that you don't realize you are fixated on everything but one thing at a time.
Read MoreI didn't learn about grief soon enough because it was my parent's responsibility to teach me. In the same way, they didn't teach me about financial literacy, buying a house, or how to date. My parents didn't prepare me to be without them because they were too busy in their versions of survival mode.
Read MoreThe thing about these type of white women is that they have no concept of true empathy. They spend a lot of time being complicit in voting, and spending the generational wealth that they have been afforded, that they have elevated themselves beyond a place where they truly have to be introspective, genuinely thoughtful, or can actually connect with even the concept of being permanently disadvantaged.
Read MoreMy pain has made me clear. My trauma and grief have set me free. But only because I was willing to embrace the lesson that only can come in emotional introspection of the past and our present emotional state. I am not afraid of what comes now in this after, because I have unpacked my before. I’m not yet unburdened of my saddens and I may never be.
I think we need better conversations around loss-- not just conversations about how to cope but also how to live and show up for ourselves again fully. Especially in these mind blowing times where most everyone you know has been personally affected by death. Coping to me is existing in spite of the void. I want to find a way to feel full inside like I did before.
Grief is eerie in the silence it requires, despite the noise of the constant flow of condolences. What are condolences anyway? I mean really. Everything changes in grief, in loss. How could it ever be the same? When something constant and is irrevocably yours leaves this plane, there is no consolation.
