Understanding the Role of Neurodivergence in Emotional Clarity

Can you heal a lifelong battle with a neurodivergent disorder in 14 days?

Well… no.

You also cannot walk into a place of spiritual enlightenment after 7 years when you have untreated, undiagnosed, and a rejection of the possibility of low cognitive function. Written in black and white, it sounds damning, and you might even perceive a situation like this as hopeless. But you also might be considering how I found myself as an intuitive guide in this position, or maybe you have yet to understand any of what I am trying to articulate here at all.

Defining Emotional Clarity

Most people do not understand what emotional clarity is, often finding themselves more familiar with the term emotional intelligence. While emotional intelligence is about recognizing and managing emotions in yourself and others, emotional clarity focuses on deeply understanding and articulating your own emotional state. Emotional clarity is a crucial foundation for self-awareness and self-discovery. This step is often overlooked in spiritual guidance, as many people are drawn to the external elements of the unseen or metaphysical realms that fascinate them. However, emotional clarity shifts the focus inward, centering on your internal dialogue and stream of consciousness. It opens the door to truly understanding your emotions, creating a pathway to healing childhood trauma and fostering deeper self-awareness. By cultivating emotional clarity, you gain the insight needed to navigate your inner world and build meaningful growth, and begin the path to deeper esoteric knowledge, and how to work emotionally to align yourself for positive manifestation.

The 14-Day Emotional Clarity Challenge

I hosted my first 14-Day Emotional Clarity Challenge in the summer of 2017, an experience that felt as close to magic as one could imagine. Channeling during a time when I was brimming with postpartum creativity—not everyone experiences depression—I found immense inspiration from my work in the Akashic Records. That summer, I met a participant who completed the challenge and continued seeking intuitive guidance afterward. I remember her words vividly: she felt truly seen, something she hadn’t experienced in traditional therapy. It was the first time someone chose to separate themselves from therapy in favor of intuitive guidance, but not the last.

Initially, my heart skipped a beat in the most terrifying sense; I felt it was too soon for her to choose, especially since we hadn’t transitioned into one-on-one sessions. Intuitive guidance is not and never has been, a replacement for therapy or mental health treatment. Yet, at that time, I had been working for over two years with a client who had shown significant psychological and physical improvements from intuitive Akashic sessions while dealing with a major depressive disorder. This experience taught me that each client’s journey is nuanced and influenced by the channeled messages infused with Akashic energy, belief, and commitment to transformation.

Bringing this experience forward, I reflect on the profound journey of guiding a client through a 14-day emotional intensive. The focus was to help them come to terms with their ADHD diagnosis—a revelation that reshaped their self-understanding and led me to explore the intricate interplay between medical diagnoses, personal narratives, and spiritual healing.

The Challenge of Guiding Resistance

What I witnessed through this process was very limited emotional growth; it was a confrontation with resistance—a battleground. The client’s initial reaction was steeped in a narrative that denied the implications of their ADHD diagnosis. Instead of embracing the diagnosis as a pathway to understanding their challenges and potential, they clung tightly to alternative spiritual modalities. While these spiritual practices hold significant value in many aspects of healing, they did not directly address the severity of the issues at hand. This selective acceptance illuminated a deeper, widespread phenomenon: the human tendency to prioritize comfort over confronting uncomfortable truths, especially when it comes to mental health and neurodivergence.

As the intensive unfolded, I found myself struggling to maintain my role as a spiritual guide. The necessity of breaking down channeled messages into digestible pieces diluted their depth and meaning. Each simplification felt like a step away from my authentic self and the intuitive intelligence I hold dear. The experience left me feeling as though my own cognitive and spiritual capabilities were diminished in the process—a dissonance I hadn’t encountered so viscerally before.

Working with clients who present mental health challenges is always nuanced. It reminded me of the emotional labor involved in guiding my previous client with depression, even during her moments of clarity and success with intuitive guidance. That experience left a lasting impact on me, underscoring that working with those who have neurodivergent conditions or significant mental health disorders often demands an intense level of accommodation. Such clients, often unconsciously, prioritize their need for validation and understanding, which can overshadow the acknowledgment of the expertise and humanity of their guides. This dynamic is central to the work of spiritual guidance—helping clients shed their ego while balancing the role of support.

The Role of the Guide

When I reflect on my role as a guide, I am often struck by how easily my work experience is overlooked or misunderstood. It’s an irony that has gnawed at me for years: in nearly every other sphere of healing—whether medical, psychological, or even aesthetic—we deeply value the perspectives of professionals. We seek to know our doctors' opinions, mostly respect our therapists' insights, and even prioritize the views of our hairstylists over those of our spiritual guides or intuitives. Yet, I don’t take my work lightly, not even for a moment. So when I tell you that facilitating a 14-day intensive where such stark denial and stagnancy overshadowed the possibility of change, I felt like I was losing brain cells. This awareness comes from a place of real anguish and frustration.

In navigating this intensive, I understood more clearly how the resistance to medical diagnoses often reflects an inherent fear of change. It’s easier to reject a clinical label and lean into a romanticized perception of spiritual practices than to integrate both paths to find a comprehensive route to healing. The experience has not only sharpened my awareness of the barriers to authentic self-realization but has also punctuated the emotional toll that comes with bridging the gap between spiritual guidance and practical mental health support. This resistance mirrors a broader societal tendency to devalue intuitive or experiential wisdom in favor of formal credentials, raising questions about how we measure the worth of healing and guidance.

​​Many people challenge my abilities and criticize the investment required to work with me, often overlooking the depth of my experience and the unique insights my natural abilities afford in understanding others. This contrasts sharply with the unquestioning respect typically afforded to therapy, simply because of its ties to formal (Western) education. Ironically, aptitude is often celebrated as a natural function of intellectual and cognitive skills—qualities most believe are largely set in early childhood. If we view credentials as external affirmations of inner work or innate knowing, doesn’t a lifetime of experience hold more value than a few years of Western schooling? Doesn’t that enduring exposure to growth and insight merit the same respect, if not more?

Attempting a spiritual pathway without the cognitive adaptability to process it is a clear reflection of imbalance. It’s no coincidence that many rarely consider what it truly means—or requires—to access a higher level of consciousness, nor the crucial role cognition plays in that journey. In some cases, individuals may avoid addressing an undiagnosed condition, even when strongly encouraged to seek an assessment. When they finally come to terms with a diagnosis, they may encounter dismissal from their family, minimizing its significance. This dynamic can leave spiritual guides unfairly carrying an emotional burden, as if the individual’s survival depends entirely on their guidance. It’s a responsibility that extends far beyond the guide’s role, yet one they may feel compelled to shoulder reluctantly.

There’s always a sense of rooting for clients from the beginning, encouraging them to explore assessments or perspectives that might reveal deeper insights. When cognitive factors seem to influence their view of the world, the hope is that introducing a different lens can illuminate the bigger picture. Yet, it’s challenging when those efforts don’t seem to fully resonate—when astrology, explanations, or intuitive messages feel difficult to absorb. Sometimes, even a structured assessment appears to fall short of unlocking the understanding that’s being offered.

It can feel disheartening when progress seems elusive despite ongoing support and encouragement. It’s especially painful when attempts to guide someone toward breaking free from limitations are perceived as adding to their constraints. The intention is always to create space for growth and freedom, yet it’s hard when the process feels like confronting challenges that go beyond cognitive factors—challenges that resist explanation or reach. It’s as though the work edges into a space beyond reasoning, where connection feels increasingly difficult to maintain.

Healing Beyond Labels

At what point do we become more than our diagnosis—whatever it might be? When do we stop identifying solely with the label and start exploring what it reveals about a deeper story, one that stretches across lifetimes, ancestral lines, and karmic patterns? This question often stirs conflict within me, especially when I observe how people engage with these concepts.

Consider Chiron, the "wounded healer" in astrology. For example, a client with Chiron in the ninth house is carrying more than just a wound; they’re embodying a profound and persistent narrative. This placement reflects an enduring struggle tied to higher learning, belief systems, and personal philosophy—lessons that may never fully heal in this lifetime. Chiron’s lessons can’t be erased or bypassed; they are meant to be faced and integrated.

So why do we seem so unequipped—or perhaps unwilling—to confront these truths? This isn’t just about intelligence in the traditional sense but about our capacity to deeply engage with and integrate life’s more challenging lessons. Is it fear? Or is it the allure of staying within the comfort of diagnosis, where transformation isn’t required? These are uncomfortable questions, but I believe they’re necessary. Growth demands that we stretch beyond the safety of labels and into the discomfort of true evolution.

The contrast with my current reality couldn’t be clearer. Where my client found relief in sharing her burden and rallying her village, I’ve often found myself alone, carrying the weight of others’ traumas and challenges without reciprocity or acknowledgment. The truth is, it requires a collective effort to truly support someone’s wellness journey—a village of understanding and active participation. Yet, so often, the work I do is seen as solitary, undervalued, and the burden of an empath is all too often misunderstood.  Living your purpose doesn't exempt you from challenges. For me, guiding clients through their emotional or spiritual journeys is deeply fulfilling, but it also means confronting their pain, confusion, and unresolved difficulties every day.

Each client I meet brings with them a unique challenge, often a struggle they can't navigate alone. While I love what I do and find it somewhat rewarding, it’s important to recognize that purpose isn't always easy. It requires resilience, empathy, and a willingness to hold space for others’ discomfort — even when it stirs something in you.

This acknowledgment doesn't diminish the love I have for my work; rather, it deepens it. Purpose is often as much about endurance as it is about joy.

This isn’t about intellect—it’s about you, your journey, and the blockages within. Many of my clients give themselves so much room to linger in the stages of grief over their problems because they’re avoiding the reality: this is about them. They’re stuck in denial, unable to move forward—just as they’ve been in so many other areas of their lives. They exist in a cycle of projection and reflection, refusing to take accountability.

By their own admission, one of my client’s  biggest struggles is recognizing how often they’ve been blaming others—claiming that coworkers or situations are unclear or wrong—when the real issue lies within themselves. The problem, at its core, keeps circling back to them.

I’ve worked to help them see that they are the common thread in their circumstances, tailoring the guidance to meet them where they are. But many struggle to grasp that their challenges didn’t just “happen” to them. I’ve faced my own difficulties, yet I’ve actively reframed, worked through, and made meaning from them. Without embracing that kind of perspective, they remain stuck.

As a guide, my responsibility should not be to single-handedly save someone from themselves while they remain oblivious to their own drowning. My expertise, like that of any healer, deserves the same respect and recognition we afford to other professions. It’s time we acknowledged the emotional and spiritual labor that goes into truly holding space for others’ healing—and that this work, too, requires a village.

My greatest struggle lies in carrying the label of an empath and navigating what others believe it means versus the demanding reality of the work it entails—constantly feeling compelled to help but being perceived as less empathetic when faced with challenges that a pure empath alone cannot solve. Intuitive empathy is an innate gift;  but it is also a skill honed through experience, yet it is not impervious to depletion—especially when faced with situations that demand more than empathy alone can provide. If all neurodivergent conditions could be healed simply by collective compassion, we would live in an idealized world, not reality.  

 This reality becomes even more pressing when supporting someone whose engagement is inconsistent. It creates a paradox: the very empathy I am known for can waver, and when it does, the perception of my capability and compassion is questioned.  But why?

What people miss while making themselves constant victims, is that in any other context involving someone seeking support for ADHD, I would be the first to advocate passionately for them. In this case, I have already done so, but this person is not willing to consistently engage in that support. This has strained my empathy for her condition, especially as it feels like I am shouldering the responsibility alone. What’s more, neither she nor others around her fully grasp how she has been let down—by her parents, teachers, friends, and employers.

Her parents have been in a state of active denial, her friends have not offered aggressive support, and while I believe accommodation is what has been expected from her employer, I don’t think they are engaging with her directly enough about how this may be affecting her progress.  The short of it is, no one has presented the necessary ultimatum to have her scurrying toward a treatment instead of letting her be swallowed by her own shadows. 

Whether you call it an intuitive insight or the influence of having a mother who taught special education for most of her career before moving into administration, I stand by my belief that her condition was not difficult to recognize. Remarkably, I observed this despite doing 90% of my client work over the phone, without video. I was the only person in her network who had the courage to confront this truth, however challenging it was to share. I pushed her to seek a formal assessment after years of avoidance following my initial revelation.

I’ve been thinking about how some people who identify as “sensitive” are really just reactive. For instance, I know that even mentioning a client with ADHD might trigger some folks—especially those who linger in my inbox but haven’t taken action. They’re caught in this loop of indecision. Maybe it’s not ADHD for them, but something is clearly holding them back. And no matter how much I prepare someone or frame my perspective, talking about this can still hit like a gut punch.

But this goes beyond any one person. It’s about how people can stay trapped in their situations for years. Honestly, I struggle to understand that. I’m the kind of person who gives myself deadlines to address what’s weighing on me—whether it’s making a tough decision, confronting a fear, or managing my health. I create a plan and follow through.

Yet, there are people who don’t, and that mindset… it baffles me. I get that for someone who isn’t ready to change, hearing this might feel personal, like a callout. But reflecting on this hit me hard because it forced me to see a truth I hadn’t fully grasped: so many people are stuck—not because they can’t move forward, but because they won’t. And that realization feels heavy. It makes me think about the bigger picture—why the world is the way it is. It’s wild to sit with, but also deeply sobering.

You don’t get many opportunities for do overs after 35.  When you do it’s rare.  And honestly, today’s 35 year olds in many ways are just starting out in many pursuits their parents had already acquired at this age, by throwing out the roadmap toward tradition and choosing alternative lifestyles.  But what can never be considered too traditional to consider is the need for medical doctors when we suspect or recognize that something within us has gone terribly wrong.

Ultimately, this journey reinforced that while spirituality provides profound comfort and insight, it cannot always be a substitute for understanding and addressing the tangible realities of neurodivergent conditions. True transformation requires both realms to coexist—to hold space for the sacred and the scientific, the mystical and the medical. Only by embracing both can we truly support those we guide on their paths to deeper healing and self-acceptance.

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