Emotional maturity is a crucial aspect of the spiritual journey. Emotional maturity is an awareness of growth in the psyche, the being, and all aspects of connection. It is a soulful state where emotions are balanced, and none are veering too far in either a positive or negative direction. It is a realized truth in the being, promoting consciousness, conscious being, and conscious actions. To understand the depth of the guidance from spiritual bodies, such as spirit guides, you must be emotionally developed enough to show deference and apply the information to positively impact your circumstances internally and externally. 

Many Akashic Records practitioners believe that the Akashic realm is available to us in the modern age to aid us in emotional maturity. In over a decade of guiding others intuitively and through the Akashic Records, I have learned that most come to the practice of spirituality void of emotional maturity and without any established relationship with spirituality. The term spiritual has become the trade-off for any connection to religion or religious practices, except for major holidays. Though when you probe beneath the surface, even the greenest empathic guide could feel that there is no spiritual connection, and most of the practices that those drawn to modern spirituality are those they have googled, social media influenced or obtained through a random spiritual experience while traveling to countries where natives practice ceremonies that lure in the occidental and extremely naive tourist. One trip to Costa Rica or Tulum, throw in ayahuasca, a cacao ceremony, a drumming ritual, and guided meditation, or a visit to ancient ruins in Belize or a temple in Bali, and that amounts to someone that is not only healed but permanently zen and "spiritual."

The obsession with self-identifying as spiritual doesn't immediately create or align your beliefs, nor does it equate to the emotional maturity necessary to sit for ongoing intuitive guidance as the vehicle for more profound growth. My observation, particularly since 2020, is that spirituality, as with other aspects of the Western world, has become less and less about the native practice of spirituality or how we integrated the ancient with the modern, but it has become about accessibility. Those who can access this level of guidance consistently take it on as they would any other accessory to their life or aesthetic. This trend has resulted in many intuitive guides and intuitive coaches becoming the equivalent of hired help. While the thought of this can come off as unbelievable, the outcomes of intuitive guidance speaks for itself. 

Emotional maturity should be given the importance it commands in spirituality which is why many people find themselves lost in intuitive guidance but also align themselves with the wrong guide. The Western spiritual seeker is often leading with ego, coming to be validated for a specific trait or a choice, and is not genuinely invested in spirituality to learn more about spiritual matters or to truly understand a profound pathway to self-discovery. These misguided expectations about what guidance is to be utilized for is where the resistance to growth begins. 

Intuitive guidance has become an experimental act of rebellion, more than a method of deeper connection to the esoteric world. Most people who enter the realm of guidance seek validation but also seek to hold a sense of authority that cannot exist in a spiritual experience. 

These authoritative tendencies block the inability to learn. Still, they are at the crux of the resistance to emotional maturity in three aspects: unwillingness to accept themselves as they are, refusal to shed the negative traits and tendencies for growth, and most of all, fear. 

The unwillingness to accept your circumstances as you are almost entirely invalidates the need for intuitive guidance. To seek a guide is a pathway for different routes or methods in anything, especially in your life's journey. Unwillingness to accept is a negative trait in those seeking guidance who can appear straightforward, such as highly defensive, judgmental, and controlling people. But it also takes a softer energy in those who constantly question, receive answers, and still somehow arrive at the same questions and repeat the same habits standing in the light of a soul-level truth about their problem.  

What I have learned about acceptance is that it is as much of an action as boundary setting. But aggressive personalities see acceptance as something weak if it is not their idea because those unwilling to get out of their way and accept the truth about themselves and their circumstances are looking for control. I always have and still do believe it strange for someone seeking help with mental health issues such as anxiety, overactive stress, and negative self-image to try and dominate positive environments and those that could offer relief. Despite the call for normalization of seeking mental health care, so many have not challenged their beliefs about a diagnosis of mental health issues enough to seek proper care when it is medically necessary. Through many intuitive guidance clients over the years, I have learned that regardless of choosing a different healing method to overcome traits like control, manipulation, insecurity, and passive-aggressive behavior as it relates to human beings energetically, many people are confused about an alternate approach to healing does not negate the existence of a mental health issue. And negative energy will always bring forth negative actions.

The idea that many people struggle with negative traits, negative energy, and adverse circumstances isn't a new concept. Mental health care exists to help people make realizations, understand, and learn how to navigate the hard things by thinking them through and applying a new mindset. Everyone finds difficulty in something in their life, but most realize by adulthood that change is inevitable, not just in our outer world but our internal world as well. 

In most people I have interacted with in guidance, the refusal to shed negative behaviors is complicated. It begins with not understanding how their unresolved life issues create negative feelings, and when those feelings are prolonged, your overall perspective of life is negatively impacted. But the refusal to shed negative behavior can be associated with the reluctance to face and heal traumas. Unsurprisingly, most people do not desire change within themselves but have great expectations that their circumstances and the people around them will change themselves. This ignorance is one of the extraordinary delusions in intuitive guidance. Intuitive guidance does not change your circumstances but enlightens you about the root causes and helps you understand more soulful ways to navigate your issues. 

Generation X (Gen X) is almost entirely turned off by the very mention of emotional maturity, as if they don't even consider what type of growth is available in intuitive guidance beyond their egotistical reasons for seeking it. They come expecting another person, or one's circumstances can miraculously change without any effort from them. The other side of delusional behavior is that when not validated in their expectations, the subject of intuitive guidance often turns on the intuitive guide. The defensive behavior comes almost immediately and reveals two things instantly: their lack of connection to spirituality and their scarceness with respect for receiving intuitive guidance rather than a licensed clinical worker. The lack of respect for spirituality that many people exert when guided toward change or deeper truths often leads to disparaging behaviors. I want to bring attention to this because no one thinks they should come to the practice of intuitive guidance to find alignment.  

On the contrary, someone signed up for a yoga class expects verbal and physical adjustments the teacher makes, and they are welcome. But the internal adjustments an intuitive guide facilitates to help orient a client toward emotional clarity or maturity are something I have found is expected to be permission-based, which is redundant to a coaching agreement. This occurrence frequently happens with those seeking guidance in Western cultures, mainly white women of Gen X. This segment of the population generally have easy access to personal coaching of many kinds, and the accessibility in areas other than personal intuitive guidance often rises to meet them delineated in their white privilege. 

Although spirituality has no color, there is no greater presence than Spirit, which is usually a hard pill to swallow for this demographic. In choosing spirituality and shirking their generational religions, they feel audacious in protecting their version of themselves, including their current energetic state and most familiar traits. Often any threat of disruption becomes a point of contention in intuitive guidance. 

Recently, I found myself discussing soul patterns with a contributor to a crowdfunding effort for forthcoming retreat experiences. Throughout that interaction, whenever I attempted to offer any channeled messages that came through, I was verbally attacked personally and continuously gaslit for what I was presenting in the form of guidance. This particular guidance subject constantly reminded me of how much she had offered toward my campaign, as if that should have been enough to manipulate the guidance into something she wanted to hear. Sadly, this experience is not isolated when it comes to white women of Gen X receiving spiritual guidance. My experience with this type of refusal to shed negative behaviors as a precedent for growth is frequent in this demographic, and it begs the question of why a white woman of this age group would seek a younger and specifically a black intuitive guide.

While seemingly unique, this observation about Gen X is not short-sighted, as millennials struggle with emotional maturity. And emotional maturity is an essential aspect of growth, mainly as you walk towards a spiritually enlightened path. Intuitive guidance often offers you answers and solutions for things you have yet to experience, and having the maturity to understand the significance of these messages and solutions will make or break your success with intuitive coaching. 

The millennial journey with maturity is more relative to unresolved childhood trauma and still comes from a perspective in which they hope to hold their parents accountable. Millennials' experience with emotional immaturity is often due to limited experience with a full range of emotionally charged experiences. And younger millennials are often at the beginning of their journey in self-discovery. But also, emotional immaturity stems from an overwhelming amount of millennials with authority issues. Millennials have primarily been overt about carving career paths and learning paths that resonate deeply with creativity and less structure, and any guidance often feels threatening from those not in their same age group. This dissonance in guidance is where they misinterpret it as authoritative rather than the truth about themselves at the soul level. 

Fear will always and forever be the ultimate resistance to emotional maturity. The oddity in this, as it relates to intuitive guidance, is that most come to guidance expecting the guide to make the realm of spirituality feel safer. To fear making decisions, outcomes, and experiences in life is a normal emotion. However, spirituality is something that you are either aligned with or not. Anyone seeking intuitive guidance should know their spiritual beliefs before searching for a guide or coach. It is not the role of a spiritual intuitive guide to explain away the unseen world in a way that you eventually develop emotional safety in it. Emotional maturity comes in intuitive guidance as you create awareness for yourself through the messages received from the spirit world. 

We are spiritual beings having a human experience. But you must be enlightened to understand that incarnation separates us from the unseen world and that many people struggle and become devoid of the ability to connect with their spiritual nature pursuant to worldly desires. 

Emotional maturity remains a condition of the growth cycle. Without maturity, we succumb to our ego state of being, which can sometimes be permanent. In a quest for expansion, we have many aspects of ourselves and the universe that must be accepted, many traits and patterns of thought and action must be shed, and fear has no place inside a spiritual journey.